Dating – the long game. How to keep it fresh when you’ve had enough

Pretty much everything in this world has seasons. 

And cycles. Even dating.

And thank goodness. 

There will be times when you have lots of dates with prospects that have potential and that line up easily. 

And other times when things seem to slow down. 

Despite the effort you put in. 

The key is to go with the flow. 

You actually don’t have to be out there all of the time dating like mad.

It’s actually good to take a pause from dating. 

Especially if you hit dating fatigue. 

Recognise and Maximise the Dating Seasons

Spring: 

You feel excited by the prospect of meeting new people. 

Whether in person or online. Doesn’t matter. You are open!  

What to do: 

Take fresh photos. Update your digital presence. Your WhatsApp thumbnail to your online profile. Keep it real. And current.

Shift your profile to reflect a new you. We’re constantly changing and evolving. Review the words you use to describe yourself. Are you accurately and authentically represented? 

Flirt. With everyone and everything.

Summer: 

Let the dates flow. Say yes easily when it feels right. 

Keep a gentle hold – feel positive about the good dates and release as much as possible from a desired or expected outcome. 

What to do: 

Dress the part for each date – for yourself. Your joy. Your happiness. Be the person you’d want to fall in love with – inside and out. Show up as you, fully you.

Fill up. Appreciate and be grateful for each experience for what it gives.  

Autumn: 

Let go of that which wants clearing. Clean the space in your body, mind + soul. Know that whatever you’ve experienced is getting you closer to where you want to be. 

What to do: 

End any beginnings that don’t feel as if they are moving forward. Or moving in the direction that you’d like them to move in. Be honest and upfront. Speak your truth. 

Trust the process (dating is a process). Keep the faith. 

Winter: 

Be quiet. Go inward. Explore your inner world. Notice what feels most nourishing and healthy for you.  

What to do: 

Nothing. Or next to nothing. Rest and recover. Spend time alone. Or with good friends. Or family.

Ground yourself.