Are the stories you tell about your experiences in dating and relationships empowering? Or do they limit you. Stories are our lifeblood as humans. Through stories we recount how things are and have been. And then use these stories, this information to form guidelines for predicting – and thus creating – our future. Learn how to create the future that you want to live in love by writing a new story for yourself. And about the recent findings in neuroscience that back it all up. For real.

If you know anything about attachment theory which offers great insight into how we love, then you’ll know that people with the Avoidant style of attachment are not emotionally available.

In fact, these so-called ‘Avoidants’ avoid emotional closeness like the plague – hence the name. And if you want an intimate relationship where you feel deep connection with the person you are with, you might want to be aware of whether he’s up for it or not.

Every time you meet a guy who’s perfectly nice, you just don’t feel it. He’s just too nice.

If this is you, you might be keeping yourself from creating a healthy relationship – one that is not only sexy, exciting and alive – but also stands the test of time. Here’s what might be going on.

And what to do instead.

As you look back on the year, you can ask what wants to happen in the new year so that you can create the love you want.

Empowered men love powerful women.

They love to see you at your best.

They are not threatened by your beauty or your intelligence or your ambition.

Because they know their own worth.

Now more than ever, men and women are coming to me looking to find Love with a capital ‘L’. Love that lights them on fire. Love that is long-term, healthy, and exciting.

And this means that now is a time when more people are open to meeting their person. Which means more possibility for you to connect with another in a deeply meaningful way.

Learn how to overcome fear and resistance so you can enjoy dating and love in the age of Covid.

I don’t know about you, but my heart has been broken many times over. Heartbreak is one of the most common things that we all experience at some point or another. And yet it remains one of the most difficult things for us to heal. Here’s a

How to stay in the dating game when all you want to do is quit. EVERYTHING has seasons. And cycles. It’s normal. Here’s how to keep yourself feeling good about dating when things slow down so you can find your person faster.

You just want dating to feel easy. Dare you hope for fun? And that one of these times it actually turns into something that feels a bit more real. And good. And right.

And just for you.

So I’m going to ask that you get off that roller coaster for good.

Come back around again...back to YOURSELF.

3 stages to getting better dates faster with great women online.

In any good, healthy conversation there is balance.

The quality of the exchange is based on each person’s ability to both

• share authentically and meaningfully

• and feel seen and heard

It’s a 50/50 balance that’s established from the first few messages with someone.

Here’s how to establish and maintain this balance

So that you can go from right swipe to first and then second date more quickly and easily than before.

And actually enjoy the flow.

3 signs she’s just not ‘emotionally available’. Guys are often charged with the accusation that you are not ‘emotionally available’. The same can be said however for many women.

Journaling is a great way to work through the tough stuff and really know yourself.

And really knowing yourself (and loving yourself for being YOU), is what actually builds your confidence.

How to stay safe and secure on a Zoom date so you can relax and enjoy it.

Ok so I’ll admit it, whilst I’m not a huge proponent of online dating I did meet my current partner on Tinder.

And for many others in long-distance relationships, cultivating a new relationship over the digi-sphere is nothing new.

So whilst I encourage people to meet in person quite quickly after they meet online, this strategy has shifted considering the environment that we live in.

And since we don’t really know how long we’ll be living in partial or full lockdown, I wanted to prepare you for whatever comes.

Here’s how to date in the era of Corvid-19

Learn 3 simple ways to find someone faster. Experience the expansiveness of falling in love NOW and attract in someone who’ll join the ride with you. 

Katie shares how she drew love in by learning how to love men – and herself. 

Wisdom comes in so many forms. 

This time it’s shaped in the form of Katie Phillips, transformational coach, self-love expert + author. 

Katie is incredible to learn from. One of the best in fact, as she’s internalised now embodies what she’s experienced in love and relationships – the challenges that life has offered her.

Learn how to relaunch your love life after divorce

By first coming back to you 

And loving + living from a whole new place

Andrea shares how she helps people get back in there after a long time out.

WHEN ARE YOU ASKING FOR TOO MUCH FROM SOMEONE IN ❤

**Core values are fundamental

Don't let them slide! Rather, soften around them.

To determine what your core values in relationship are ask yourself:

- What moments in my life have fulfilled me + felt meaningful?

- When do I feel most like myself

- In the times I've felt down, what has been missing?

My core values are:

Honesty

Open communication

Accountability + Responsibility

Money mindset compatibility

Sense of adventure / curiosity

**Combat perfectionism

Ask yourself:

What do I wish others would see in me?

What do I wish I had a gentle teacher for?

Looking inward, we notice that we are not perfect either.

And that some things take time to uncover.

And that this may be the buried treasure you've yet to discover in the other.

**I'm curious, what's your nu 1 core value? Comment below.👇🏽

How to beat the tech + find love online. Dating apps are designed to keep you single. This is what you must to know about dating apps to find love online

UNEXPECTED LOVE MAGNET: BOUNDARIES

We think we're going to lose someone when we say no, that's not ok.

Instead, those worth keeping grow more curious about us. And respect our edges.

We become more powerful in ourselves as we trust ourselves more.

And that powerful sense of knowing is VERY sexy for someone who knows his or her own power as well.

This other person knows that they come to someone who can hold themselves and protect themselves.

And so they are free to love you. Without having to save you. And if they too know their boundaries, have a strong sense of self-respect + love for themselves, they won't expect you to save them either.

HOW TO CREATE + MAINTAIN YOUR (new + sexy) BOUNDARIES

1. Know your desires + values in Relationship – get crystal clear – make a list

Include emotional, physical, mental + spiritual aspects

This is your line in the sand

2. Learn how to say NO - firmly + from your heart

When you are grounded and speak your NO clearly, then your YES becomes clearer as well. (Thank you @Sue Sutherland)

3. Be ok with whatever happens

Know that the trust + respect you demonstrate for yourself is what makes you YOU.

Love yourself knowing that being there for yourself is a great act of self-love.

And anyone who doesn't respect your boundaries, who doesn't first seek to respect you and then understand you, is probably someone you don't want around.

What better filter than this for discerning who's right / wrong for you!!

Dating is not a numbers game. ➕➖➗

I know.

I went on hundreds of dates and swiped thousands of profiles for 8 straight years.

Countless hours were spent crafting my online profile.

It only mattered so much.

I finally felt like I was taking control over finding a relationship when I really owned it.

And the IT here was me.

Learn how to take the sting out of rejection so that it no longer becomes a ‘thing’.

Whether you’ve been dating for a while or if you’re jumping in the sea after some time on dry land, you’re likely to have come across rejection in one form or another.  

I want to seduce like the French 🇫🇷

I want to become a masterful seductress. Powerful. Sensual.

Because to the French seduction is about expressing your inner essence as a woman. Not to manipulate or deceive, but to LIGHT THE WORLD ON FIRE..and draw another in to your world. 🔥

We all get to a point in our lives when things feel too heavy to bear. When our breath draws short and our minds feel unable to navigate the twists and turns of all that is happening within and outside of us.

I teach a quick simple practice taken from mindfulness that allows all of the above to happen, but also creates some space and within that space some peace even as you hold, feel, and experience intense emotion.

Ruth Sowter, 'healthy hedonist' and Integrated Sex, Love and Relationships coach, yoga teacher, writer, speaker and women's health expert (yep, she's all this) speaks about... Resilience. And how key it is to thriving while dating.

Take the guesswork out of dating. Learn how your ‘dating relationship’ can tell you about your chances for it lasting long-term in beautiful bliss.

Here are the 5 essential ingredients to tell you if your date is long-term material

The building blocks of a good strong relationship begin in dating. And knowing how to ‘date well’ and ‘choose well’ is critical to you getting the long-lasting beautiful love that you want.

We explore how to move beyond bewildering biology and brainy analysis by embracing both and adding a bit of consciousness to the mix so that you can make a top choice in love.

Not sure if you want to be in a relationship? YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Not sure when you even became not sure? Again, not alone. Not sure why you are no longer sure? And does it really matter?

This is the part where you move into ACTION to become SUPREMELY Confident. Sooooo good.