Dating feels easier, relationships and connection flow more easily, and you experience a greater sense of wholeness, nourishment and satisfaction when you tap into pleasure. 2 minute practices to get you on the path to pleasure.

Considering how important lube has been to enhancing my pleasure under the sheets, I decided to invite lube creator and expert Kathie Bishop to tell you all about it.

Part 1 is about why you might need lube and what it all means.

As you look back on the year, you can ask what wants to happen in the new year so that you can create the love you want.

Scheduling in sex (with your partner or yourself) makes it a ritual. And rituals are powerful.

Rituals bring meaning to the ordinary. As opposed to ‘habits’ which are done mindlessly.

Scheduled sex, sex that is ritual, is sex infused with deep meaning.

And it feels like magic.

Make pre-date preparations feel luxurious by indulging in the luscious sips I’ve selected here.

Date with joy, ease and fun - and feel sexy

Ancient sex tools were low tech. But don’t be fooled by no batteries. The jade egg is not just a little stone.

When you open your body fully to allow for the free-flow of energy through it, you allow for the full and full-bodied experience of pleasure.

Learn how to ride the waves of your sexual energy and you’ll feel it’s magnificent force as a full bodied pleasure experience.

Maximising pleasure in lovemaking is all about opening up to the possibility of the unknown. Of the adventure. And experiencing the variety of what comes. 

And celebrating whatever happens. Of really being with yourself and the person you are with. 

When it comes to accessing your pleasure, all it takes is a shedding. A shedding of that which blocks you from feeling pleasure fully – or at all. 

Over the years, battle with the world, past relationships, rejections, sexual confusion, negative messaging from society and culture around sex and our sexiness is collected in our bodies. 

We build up a kind of protective shield like body armour to batten up our defences – and to stop us from feeling the yuck of all of that. 

Problem is, it also closes us off to the good stuff – the nuanced experience of exquisite sensuality – and from the experience of orgasm. 

So we end up feeling nothing at all in sex (with ourselves or with others). 

Or intense physical pain and discomfort during sex – exactly the opposite of what we hope to experience!

Good news is, you can learn to unlock your body and shed the armour you’ve built up. Peel off the layers. Feel sensations of pleasure and connection with ourselves and our partners.

Here are 3 ways to start the process of de-armouring your body: 

Breathe

Breathe into the parts of you that are stuck or numb or in pain. Imagine that the breath softens these places in you, relaxes them, and that you are breathing in space into your body.

Sound

Give voice to whatever you are feeling. Allow whatever sounds that want to emerge to come out. With no judgement on what or how it’s sounding. It’s all welcome.

Safety + Love

Reinforce a sense of safety and love in your body by reminding yourself that you are in fact safe (as long as this is true and you are physically and emotionally in a safe place.

Remind yourself that it is safe to feel. Safe to cry. Safe to be vulnerable. Safe to express whatever is there even if it doesn’t look or feel nice.

And love yourself for going there.

Feel into your heart as you repeat to yourself – You are safe. You are loved. I love you.

Remember that this is a journey that takes time. Every body is different. Every timeline is different. 

Know that whatever you experience, wherever you are with this, is exactly right. 

You are perfect. 

Katie shares how she drew love in by learning how to love men – and herself. 

Wisdom comes in so many forms. 

This time it’s shaped in the form of Katie Phillips, transformational coach, self-love expert + author. 

Katie is incredible to learn from. One of the best in fact, as she’s internalised now embodies what she’s experienced in love and relationships – the challenges that life has offered her.

We crave deep real soul-to-soul connection with ourselves as well as with another.

And in a world full of quick Tinder fixes and porn addictions that leave us unsatisfied, we need to relearn how to access our pleasure...for ourselves as much as with another.

Too much giving (and no receiving) is a defence AGAINST INTIMACY.

Receiving creates connection.

My first 3 years of learning tantra were when I was single.

I practiced tantra on my own.

I share with you a basic tantric principle 💥 that of polarity 💥 

Or the push pull of life.

The magnetism that draws you to another person for instance.

Steps to increasing + practicing Polarity:

1 Decide if you want to be in the Go or Flow state

2 Transition fully into Go or Flow (most people are in Go - I give tips on getting into Flow)

3 Practice being in the state you choose. Partnered dance is a great way to practice.

The Go state is one where you are focused, have a sense of direction and movement and at the same time be present enough to feel into where the person in Flow is and respond.

Those in Flow states dance and move around the Go state person. There is power in the flow state as one cannot exist without the other. And people in Flow must listen into the Go state person so that they can receive the signals from them. The state is one of receptivity and relax.

The 3 parts of your brain and how to experience the most pleasurable sex imaginable.

Self-soothing is soooooo good. Because only you know exactly what you need to make you feel better.

And you are with yourself ALL THE TIME, so basically there’s always someone there to look out for you.

Learn 6 easy ways to self soothe and make life so smooth:
1. Gentle touch

2. Non-linear movement

3. Golden light + love

4. Positive words / affirmations

5. Community + synchronised movement

6. Hugs

Let me be honest with you, when I first started to do a thing called “Breathwork” I HATED IT. I mean really, truly, fiercely hated it.

And yet it proved to be one of the keys to me opening up my body to pleasure after years of it slowly shutting down to sensation. 

And it so easy to do.

You can only be confident in your sexiness – truly confident – if you know your body inside and out.

And self-pleasure is possibly THE best way to do that.

Imagine that you trusted your body completely, that you knew exactly what she wanted and needed at any time, and that you felt safe in your own sexiness. I'm talking about YOU being in charge here, no one else. 

Would that make you feel confident in dating? Hell yes! 

Would that make you feel confident in bed? That's another hell yes!! (Even got 2 exclams)

And that confidence radiates into your whole life.

Pleasure is the best medicine for good health

Sexual pleasure is a full-body experience of all of the five wonderful senses that we are born with.

The more you can drop into your body in sex whether solo or in company, the more pleasure you will experience. 

I introduce you to a super sensual and oh so delicious tantric ritual that will get you right to the epicentre of pleasure: your body.

All relationships are a mirror of the one we have with ourselves, and by upgrading our inner landscape we upgrade the outer landscape. - Marilu Snyners, Self-love + Jade Egg Coach, South Africa

How one single woman’s jade egg practice hatched into love – self-love and then eventually romantic love.

“More sensation, desire, pleasure, and incredible orgasms (even if you've never had one), are totally possibly when you uncover and release what blocks you and learn to be more connected to the magic of your body. Are you ready?” - Veda Ramone

A is for…🤩 Can you guess what 2 parts of your ‘arousal anatomy’ A is for? Both of these areas of your anatomy are lesser known than the ones we’ve spoken about thus far, yet both are super special.

The G-spot and squirting go hand-in-hand. And like much of female sexuality have been shrouded in doubt and darkness for too long. 

The clitoris is amazing. No doubt.

She has more nerve endings than anywhere else in both the female and male anatomy, making her highly sensitised, uniquely exquisite and full of potential pleasure. 

What you probably don't know is that on top of this she's got a few other parts surrounding her that help deliver pleasure in surround sound as I like to think of it..

Learn about your anatomy and learn too about the jade egg! I share with you the basics of our beautiful and perfect anatomy so that you can experience all of the pleasure that it is built for.

More than 4 reasons why the jade egg is sooo good for your body, mind and soul

Laura tells us her story about how she met Prince Charming and then watched as her body shut down overnight. She shares with us a few easy to learn 'holistic sex tools' that brought her back alive. 🔥

We don’t talk about how being confident in life means being confident in your sexuality, in feeling sexy, in expressing that gorgeous flavour of life fully.

And we don’t learn how to be sexually confident either.

Self-pleasure can help with all that. This video can help you get started.

Use these sweet and sexy rituals to get you ready for any date, from the nerve-racking kind with potential ‘loves of your life’ to smokin’ hot guys you’ve been curious about.