Long-term love is a wonderful thing.

And for the doubters out there, I can tell you that yes, it can and does exist. Personal and professional experience has shown me this.

However

It does take both attention (the energy of focus) and intention (the energy of transformation)* to keep love fresh and alive over time.

Many years ago, I learned and now teach a simple and powerful practice that helps with exactly this.

As with many of the practices I share, this one works on all layers of your being – body, heart and mind.

When you’ve been with someone for a long time, you tend to pick up and carry with you some of their ‘stuff’, the heavier stuff, as much as the ‘good’ stuff and it lands and stays in you – all of you.

So whether it’s their sadness, anger or frustration with life that leaves traces of those emotions within you

Or the unease that remains between the two you from heated arguments or confrontation resolved or unresolved

Or a kind of dullness that leaves you numbed out or bored from too much time together, too much familiarity, too much closeness

All of these things can weigh you down, dampen desire and prompt you to ask yourself

If it’s going to feel like this from now until the end of time

Whether you’ll ever feel the sparkle of turn-on that you once felt for them again

And whether the person you are with is right for you any more

My response to you is this:

Whilst it is true that all things are cyclical in life and in love

And that even in the best of romantic, intimate relationships there are times of unease and disharmony or disenchantment and dullness

That there are things you can do to reset your energy and the energy of the relationship.

And with the reset regain

The freshness of love between you

The space for desire to ignite again

And deepen and build upon the richness that comes with long-term, committed love

This beautiful ritual of cleaning and clearing on all levels of your being – body, heart and mind – is one that I use not only with women to heal past heartbreak.

But also with those in long-term relationship that wants a refresh.

So that there’s space for new fresh love to emerge and for desire to reignite.

It is sacred. It is special.

And you and your relationship, are worth it.

*Thank you to Deepak Chopra @ for clarifying my understanding of the energy behind these two words.