Re-igniting long-term love

I wasn’t sure that this [coaching] would work when I signed up for it with my husband. 

But we both knew something had to change. We were both at the end of our patience with one another. And I could not remember the last time I felt any love towards him, never mind desire for intimacy. 

Speaking of intimacy, over the course of our marriage of 10 years, we didn’t have the best track record. There were health issues that hindered this greatly and I came to learn that these were closely related to how I viewed sex, what I learned about pleasure growing up, and what I heard from the women around me about it – mainly that it would be painful and awful and I’d just learn to bear it.   

So you would be surprised to hear that just a few months later, I feel those beautiful butterflies of anticipation when I think about my husband. 

I hate you has turned to I love you. I don’t remember the last time I had said or truly felt that about him. 

I feel myself falling in love with him again. And him with me. 

We hold hands. 

We go on coffee dates together.

We hold one another. 

And it actually feels good.  

We’re learning to be intimate with one another in ways that bring me pleasure – something I’ve experienced only on rare occasions in the past. 

And my body is responding as well – my mind has cleared and I can focus on my health which as a result has improved.

I certainly did not expect all of this when I began this work with Andrea. 

She’s guided me in a way that feels positive. She is an excellent listener, talking to her I always felt I was being heard. I felt very comfortable with her and this made it easy to share my experiences/concerns with her. She gave me the time and space to work, without being too pushy. 

What's been most helpful is her believing in me and giving me back the control of my life.

I now look forward to my life and the future I have with my husband and our small family. 

I am at home in my own home. And from here on forward I feel it will only get better. 

If you’re in a relationship and would like to learn how working with me can support you, book in a 30 minute confidential consultation call with me.