Meredith’s Story
Meredith is a gently powerful woman. Inquisitive, quietly ambitious and heart-centred she also holds deep wisdom that is undeniable and apparent when you first meet her.
She’s also an empath; a highly sensitive person with a level of self-knowing and an ability to connect with and feel where other people are at that she has come to see as an exquisite gift.
Yet as a deep feeler, Meredith experienced relationships –especially intimate ones – as upsetting and unsettling.
And so she came to me with a desire to feel secure, stable and steady when faced with challenges in her relationship, so that she could know that her marriage had the best future.
I spoke to Meredith about the journey she went on with me in one-to-one coaching. How she got clarity on what needed to happen in order for her to experience the kind of love and intimacy that she wanted.
Equipped with powerful tools and a true sense of herself, Meredith now knows how to more easily maintain and grow the beautiful connection she cultivated with her partner over time.
This work has had a ripple effect throughout her life.
Here is her story.
Tell me a bit about what you were struggling with when it came to relationships and love? What did you come to work on?
I definitely struggled with articulating what I needed in relationships and often expected people to ‘just know’.
I felt hurt when people didn’t and I wanted to learn how to not feel resentful and make digs in a relationship because of it.
I am incredibly sensitive and it doesn’t take that much to shake my sense of security in very close relationships. I can be easily triggered, which I found it deeply upsetting and unsettling.
I’d love to find more balance in how I am able to show up for my partner in a kind and caring way without compromising myself.
Meredith , like many people who care deeply, found it easier to turn her focus outward and place her attention on what wanted ‘fixing’ or ‘taking care of’ in the other person.
I was doing a lot of self reflection around my marriage, and what I perceived as things that needed to change in my partner. Rather than maybe looking inward at work that I could do on myself.
By putting myself first and really actively considering what I need, and viewing my sensitivity as a superpower rather than a negative, those changes have really shifted both how I feel about myself but also how I'm conducting myself in certain situations.
I feel really empowered to think of myself and what I need. And I need to give myself that, and that has to be a priority, otherwise I can't show up in my relationship, at work, for my friends, or in any kind of other facet of life.
As the weeks progressed, Meredith felt more and more capable and equipped with what she needed to be able to be with the intensity of interpersonal relationships – in her marriage, in her family and in her work life as well.
She showed up to sessions feeling stronger, softer, calmer and more resilient.
And how has this changed the dynamic in your relationship?
When we bring our focus inwards and make shifts and changes within us, then the outer world reflects that change. Here’s how that looked for Meredith .
Things are very different and kind of easy between [ my partner and I ] now. I feel I’m more at ease and content. And that's what I'd love to take forward – just a sense of, even though life's gonna throw up a few bits...it will be okay.
Before I was doing a lot of external looking for shift and change and actually this demonstrated to me more than I thought it possibly could, how much change in yourself is so intrinsic and important.
Because what I wanted to happen ended up happening, all because I'd invested in and focused on myself.
What did the time commitment look like?
With the homework that you often set, invariably I didn't practice it every single day. But I found it incredibly useful and incredibly easy to just pull that into my sort of day to day practice of living.
There might be some people that feel like, ‘Oh, is that gonna be kind of too much’, because I think that was definitely something that I thought about early on.
I was like, ‘Gosh this is almost going to be another thing on my to do list’.
But actually your messages were such a wonderful reminder to take a step back and be like, ‘What is going on actually,’ and ‘How have I been handling it’.
It was so integral to the kind of progress that I felt and could see in myself make week to week.
Home’play’ as I like to call it, is specifically designed to incorporate into your life seamlessly.
Sustainable shifts are what we are going for, so that you experience immediate results in a calibrated way. Safety and change go hand in hand.
And as a coach guiding you through an immersive experience, it’s my job to ensure you have the support you need to stay on track.
How is this different from other forms of therapy or self-development work?
It feels like more than coaching. But the word coaching doesn't encompass how spiritual this was. Because my understanding of coaching is that you have a problem and then maybe you kind of talk through it and you might do some exercises or whatever.
I would say this really felt like a real step up from traditional therapy I've had before.
And also kind of a super speed. Because it can take a really long time to tackle stuff in talking therapy.
Working in an integrated way – with the body and energy as much as with the mind and emotions (through talk) – is the most efficient and way to get where you want to go. The shifts are as gentle as they are profound. And last over time.
The techniques and tools that I use have been proven by recent science and are some of the most cutting-edge available today.
How was it exactly to work with your body?
I had no real sense of what working with the body meant. And it's the first time that I'd experienced anything like that. But what I found pretty much every week was that it was so transformational every single time.
I just felt such a sense of clarity, and this sort of safety around that. Because it was sometimes going really deep. And although there were points where tears were streaming down my face, it felt really powerful and also very safe.
I feel quite deeply changed to be honest when I think about where I was based on my internal narrative and issues that I felt like I was struggling with.
When I think back it feels like a completely different version of me, and I just can't imagine somehow forgetting all of this and going back there.
As we tapped into Meredith ’s own inner wisdom, the guidance that she needed simply came through her.
For some, this feels like soul-level work.
And for me it is indeed like a sacred dance.
How did it feel to say ‘yes’ to coaching?
It felt scary I'll be honest. I felt intimidated, potentially by the time commitment.
And I felt intimidated in terms of that kind of investment in myself. It felt a bit excessive maybe.
But I'm so glad that I did, because it's just paid dividends in terms of where I am and where, how I feel, and the kind of integral shifts that I feel like it's amazing.
It feels just so, so important that I kind of can't believe I was ever questioning, going for it.
What might you say to someone considering the investment?
That you're worth it.
Even though it might feel really intimidating, especially if this is the first kind of type of work like this that you've done. But that you're worth it.
And I promise that it will be worth it.
I think that from what I thought I would get out of our sessions, it feels like it's just touched so many more bits of my life than I maybe even realised needed touching.
I should probably add that you are lovely. And you always feel so heartfelt and wonderful. Your cheerleading tactics along the way are part of your magic. And it’s unique as well because you're kind of unbridled in that, but so authentically enthusiastic at all times.
It's just so up-lifting.
I truly love the work I do, because it’s quite rewarding to see people not only get what they want in love, intimacy and life, but also because the journey to it all is inspiring.
I’d love to talk to you about how I might help you to have the partnership, love and intimacy that you want in your life.