For Women, For Men, For Couples
Andrea Balboni
How to talk about sex in a new relationship

If you want to have good sex – to give pleasure and receive it – you need to communicate both your own wants, needs, and desires to your partner, and to ask them what works for them as well.
The myth that someone should just be able to ‘feel into you’ and if they can hit all your spots, they must be ‘the right one’ needs to die.

How to talk about sex in a new relationship

For Women

Katie Phillips on Learning to be Intimate

Katie Phillips on Learning to be Intimate

Katie shares how she drew love in by learning how to love men – and herself. 


Wisdom comes in so many forms. 


This time it’s shaped in the form of Katie Phillips, transformational coach, self-love expert + author. 


Katie is incredible to learn from. One of the best in fact, as she’s internalised now embodies what she’s experienced in love and relationships – the challenges that life has offered her.

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How to deepen intimacy + ask for what you want in bed

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Bad s*x. Been there. Done that.

We pretty much all have.

Sue Sutherland​ of the Feel Institute talks to us about how to have GREAT s*x.

And she shares with us a simple game we can play with the people we are with so that we can have the experiences that we really want.

Sneak peak into the wisdom:

1. Know what you want – listen to that body of yours

2. Ask for it – be brave + bold!

3. Love yourself for doing so.

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One (of the admittedly many) reasons why sex can end up being bad

Even with those that we love having sex with
Is when we say yes to doing something that we actually don’t want to do!

We consent.

Simply stated CONSENT = CHOICE

We choose to say YES to a touch or a closeness or something more
When all our body really wanted was for us to
Shout out an emphatic NO
Or a gentle firm NO
Or any NO at all.

Let’s just admit it: speaking up around sex, especially in intimate moments with someone new…or even someone you’ve been with for a very long time…

Can feel extremely scary. And weird.
We don’t want to kill a moment. Or offend someone.
Or seem inexperienced. Or awkward.

And yet, when you learn how to talk about what you want
Or don’t want in any moment

The chances of having bad sex every again diminish completely.
And the path to good sex

To amazzzzzing sex
Opens wide.

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How to have better sex: connection + consent with Nichi Hodgson

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How to have better sex: connection + consent with Nichi Hodgson

How to have better sex: connection + consent with Nichi Hodgson

I want you to jump from two feet into the bedroom, when you feel finally ready to be intimate with a certain someone you might have just started dating.

And not only that, I want you to have the best sex possible when you do.

And so, I wanted to break out this bit of a conversation from a video I had posted a few weeks back with Nichi Hodgson, journalist on all things sexy for the likes of the Guardian and Sky News that will help you to do so.You see, consent is key to connection. And connection is the key to great sex. Especially if you are new to dating someone. 

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How to know if an open relationship is right for you

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How to know if an open relationship is right for you

From Classic Monogamy to Monogamish – the new black to Pioneering with Polyamory

There are so many choices out there now-a-days...How do you know what's right for you?

Expert Ria Bloom explains:

How to know what relationship style is right for you

How to own it

And why it's important to voice it

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Are you asking for too much from someone?

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Are you asking for too much from someone?

WHEN ARE YOU ASKING FOR TOO MUCH FROM SOMEONE IN ❤

**Core values are fundamental

Don't let them slide! Rather, soften around them.

To determine what your core values in relationship are ask yourself:

- What moments in my life have fulfilled me + felt meaningful?

- When do I feel most like myself

- In the times I've felt down, what has been missing?

My core values are:

Honesty

Open communication

Accountability + Responsibility

Money mindset compatibility

Sense of adventure / curiosity

**Combat perfectionism

Ask yourself:

What do I wish others would see in me?

What do I wish I had a gentle teacher for?

Looking inward, we notice that we are not perfect either.

And that some things take time to uncover.

And that this may be the buried treasure you've yet to discover in the other.

**I'm curious, what's your nu 1 core value? Comment below.👇🏽

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Boundaries - the unexpected love magnet

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Boundaries - the unexpected love magnet

UNEXPECTED LOVE MAGNET: BOUNDARIES

We think we're going to lose someone when we say no, that's not ok.

Instead, those worth keeping grow more curious about us. And respect our edges.

We become more powerful in ourselves as we trust ourselves more.

And that powerful sense of knowing is VERY sexy for someone who knows his or her own power as well.

This other person knows that they come to someone who can hold themselves and protect themselves.

And so they are free to love you. Without having to save you. And if they too know their boundaries, have a strong sense of self-respect + love for themselves, they won't expect you to save them either.

HOW TO CREATE + MAINTAIN YOUR (new + sexy) BOUNDARIES

1. Know your desires + values in Relationship – get crystal clear – make a list

Include emotional, physical, mental + spiritual aspects

This is your line in the sand

2. Learn how to say NO - firmly + from your heart

When you are grounded and speak your NO clearly, then your YES becomes clearer as well. (Thank you @Sue Sutherland)

3. Be ok with whatever happens

Know that the trust + respect you demonstrate for yourself is what makes you YOU.

Love yourself knowing that being there for yourself is a great act of self-love.

And anyone who doesn't respect your boundaries, who doesn't first seek to respect you and then understand you, is probably someone you don't want around.

What better filter than this for discerning who's right / wrong for you!!

The Man Cave – Uncovering the mystery (+ hidden benefits)

The Man Cave – Uncovering the mystery (+ hidden benefits)

THE MAN CAVE!!

Women fear it when it's actually one of the best things for a relationship!

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Here are all the reasons I got from talking to loads of guys about why we should be grateful for this deep, dark place:


If you want a man who's powerful, full of energy, present with you, able to give, is compassionate and loving then he'll need his space


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Dating is not a numbers game - How to turn the odds in your favour

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Dating is not a numbers game - How to turn the odds in your favour

Dating is not a numbers game. ➕➖➗

I know.

I went on hundreds of dates and swiped thousands of profiles for 8 straight years.

Countless hours were spent crafting my online profile.

It only mattered so much.

I finally felt like I was taking control over finding a relationship when I really owned it.

And the IT here was me.

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Solo Tantra 101 - Polarity: Get the sparks flying

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Solo Tantra 101 - Polarity: Get the sparks flying

My first 3 years of learning tantra were when I was single.

I practiced tantra on my own.

I share with you a basic tantric principle 💥 that of polarity 💥 

Or the push pull of life.

The magnetism that draws you to another person for instance.

Steps to increasing + practicing Polarity:

1 Decide if you want to be in the Go or Flow state

2 Transition fully into Go or Flow (most people are in Go - I give tips on getting into Flow)

3 Practice being in the state you choose. Partnered dance is a great way to practice.

The Go state is one where you are focused, have a sense of direction and movement and at the same time be present enough to feel into where the person in Flow is and respond.

Those in Flow states dance and move around the Go state person. There is power in the flow state as one cannot exist without the other. And people in Flow must listen into the Go state person so that they can receive the signals from them. The state is one of receptivity and relax.