If you want to have good sex – to give pleasure and receive it – you need to communicate both your own wants, needs, and desires to your partner, and to ask them what works for them as well.
The myth that someone should just be able to ‘feel into you’ and if they can hit all your spots, they must be ‘the right one’ needs to die.
If you want to have good sex – to give pleasure and receive it – you need to communicate both your own wants, needs, and desires to your partner, and to ask them what works for them as well.
The myth that someone should just be able to ‘feel into you’ and if they can hit all your spots, they must be ‘the right one’ needs to die.
You might be easily aware of your emotions, thoughts, and behaviours on a surface level, and may even experience some level of insight into them, but it’s when you feel them in your body on a very deep level, that you can shift swiftly, directly and permanently whatever it is that is blocking you.
And be free to live the life – and love – that is meant for you.
Bad s*x. Been there. Done that.
We pretty much all have.
Sue Sutherland of the Feel Institute talks to us about how to have GREAT s*x.
And she shares with us a simple game we can play with the people we are with so that we can have the experiences that we really want.
Sneak peak into the wisdom:
1. Know what you want – listen to that body of yours
2. Ask for it – be brave + bold!
3. Love yourself for doing so.
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One (of the admittedly many) reasons why sex can end up being bad
Even with those that we love having sex with
Is when we say yes to doing something that we actually don’t want to do!
We consent.
Simply stated CONSENT = CHOICE
We choose to say YES to a touch or a closeness or something more
When all our body really wanted was for us to
Shout out an emphatic NO
Or a gentle firm NO
Or any NO at all.
Let’s just admit it: speaking up around sex, especially in intimate moments with someone new…or even someone you’ve been with for a very long time…
Can feel extremely scary. And weird.
We don’t want to kill a moment. Or offend someone.
Or seem inexperienced. Or awkward.
And yet, when you learn how to talk about what you want
Or don’t want in any moment
The chances of having bad sex every again diminish completely.
And the path to good sex
To amazzzzzing sex
Opens wide.
How to have better sex: connection + consent with Nichi Hodgson
I want you to jump from two feet into the bedroom, when you feel finally ready to be intimate with a certain someone you might have just started dating.
And not only that, I want you to have the best sex possible when you do.
And so, I wanted to break out this bit of a conversation from a video I had posted a few weeks back with Nichi Hodgson, journalist on all things sexy for the likes of the Guardian and Sky News that will help you to do so.You see, consent is key to connection. And connection is the key to great sex. Especially if you are new to dating someone.
WHEN ARE YOU ASKING FOR TOO MUCH FROM SOMEONE IN ❤
**Core values are fundamental
Don't let them slide! Rather, soften around them.
To determine what your core values in relationship are ask yourself:
- What moments in my life have fulfilled me + felt meaningful?
- When do I feel most like myself
- In the times I've felt down, what has been missing?
My core values are:
Honesty
Open communication
Accountability + Responsibility
Money mindset compatibility
Sense of adventure / curiosity
**Combat perfectionism
Ask yourself:
What do I wish others would see in me?
What do I wish I had a gentle teacher for?
Looking inward, we notice that we are not perfect either.
And that some things take time to uncover.
And that this may be the buried treasure you've yet to discover in the other.
**I'm curious, what's your nu 1 core value? Comment below.👇🏽
