relationships

How the stories you tell yourself keep you from love – and how to change that

How the stories you tell yourself keep you from love – and how to change that

Are the stories you tell about your experiences in dating and relationships empowering? Or do they limit you. Stories are our lifeblood as humans. Through stories we recount how things are and have been. And then use these stories, this information to form guidelines for predicting – and thus creating – our future. Learn how to create the future that you want to live in love by writing a new story for yourself. And about the recent findings in neuroscience that back it all up. For real.

The most important career decision you’ll ever make is who to love. Here’s why.

The most important career decision you’ll ever make is who to love. Here’s why.

Sheryl Sandberg, Bill and Melinda Gates, Warren Buffett, and my mother all agree on one thing – "that the single most important career decision that a woman makes is whether she will have a life partner and who that partner is."

How to fall in love with a nice guy

How to fall in love with a nice guy

Every time you meet a guy who’s perfectly nice, you just don’t feel it. He’s just too nice.

If this is you, you might be keeping yourself from creating a healthy relationship – one that is not only sexy, exciting and alive – but also stands the test of time. Here’s what might be going on.

And what to do instead.

How to heal from heartbreak - a 3 step body-heart-mind process

How to heal from heartbreak - a 3 step body-heart-mind process

I don’t know about you, but my heart has been broken many times over. Heartbreak is one of the most common things that we all experience at some point or another. And yet it remains one of the most difficult things for us to heal. Here’s a

Starting a relationship in the era of Covid-19 is possible. Here’s how.

Starting a relationship in the era of Covid-19 is possible. Here’s how.

Ok so I’ll admit it, whilst I’m not a huge proponent of online dating I did meet my current partner on Tinder.

And for many others in long-distance relationships, cultivating a new relationship over the digi-sphere is nothing new.

So whilst I encourage people to meet in person quite quickly after they meet online, this strategy has shifted considering the environment that we live in.

And since we don’t really know how long we’ll be living in partial or full lockdown, I wanted to prepare you for whatever comes.

Here’s how to date in the era of Corvid-19

5 Keys to Creating a Healthy Relationship

5 Keys to Creating a Healthy Relationship

Even the most healthy of relationships experience ups and downs throughout their evolution.

What makes the difference between relationships that ‘make it’ and last over time, has everything to do with how the 2 (or more) people in the relationship relate – not only to the other person, but also to themselves.

As you learn to become more aware of your own internal world and learn how to navigate it, you develop a better chance at creating and staying in a relationship that will feel amazing to experience – despite the challenges that arise.

Katie Phillips on Learning to be Intimate

Katie Phillips on Learning to be Intimate

Katie shares how she drew love in by learning how to love men – and herself. 


Wisdom comes in so many forms. 


This time it’s shaped in the form of Katie Phillips, transformational coach, self-love expert + author. 


Katie is incredible to learn from. One of the best in fact, as she’s internalised now embodies what she’s experienced in love and relationships – the challenges that life has offered her.

How to have better sex: connection + consent with Nichi Hodgson

How to have better sex: connection + consent with Nichi Hodgson

How to have better sex: connection + consent with Nichi Hodgson

I want you to jump from two feet into the bedroom, when you feel finally ready to be intimate with a certain someone you might have just started dating.

And not only that, I want you to have the best sex possible when you do.

And so, I wanted to break out this bit of a conversation from a video I had posted a few weeks back with Nichi Hodgson, journalist on all things sexy for the likes of the Guardian and Sky News that will help you to do so.You see, consent is key to connection. And connection is the key to great sex. Especially if you are new to dating someone. 

How to know if an open relationship is right for you

How to know if an open relationship is right for you

From Classic Monogamy to Monogamish – the new black to Pioneering with Polyamory

There are so many choices out there now-a-days...How do you know what's right for you?

Expert Ria Bloom explains:

How to know what relationship style is right for you

How to own it

And why it's important to voice it

Are you asking for too much from someone?

Are you asking for too much from someone?

WHEN ARE YOU ASKING FOR TOO MUCH FROM SOMEONE IN ❤

**Core values are fundamental

Don't let them slide! Rather, soften around them.

To determine what your core values in relationship are ask yourself:

- What moments in my life have fulfilled me + felt meaningful?

- When do I feel most like myself

- In the times I've felt down, what has been missing?

My core values are:

Honesty

Open communication

Accountability + Responsibility

Money mindset compatibility

Sense of adventure / curiosity

**Combat perfectionism

Ask yourself:

What do I wish others would see in me?

What do I wish I had a gentle teacher for?

Looking inward, we notice that we are not perfect either.

And that some things take time to uncover.

And that this may be the buried treasure you've yet to discover in the other.

**I'm curious, what's your nu 1 core value? Comment below.👇🏽

Boundaries - the unexpected love magnet

Boundaries - the unexpected love magnet

UNEXPECTED LOVE MAGNET: BOUNDARIES

We think we're going to lose someone when we say no, that's not ok.

Instead, those worth keeping grow more curious about us. And respect our edges.

We become more powerful in ourselves as we trust ourselves more.

And that powerful sense of knowing is VERY sexy for someone who knows his or her own power as well.

This other person knows that they come to someone who can hold themselves and protect themselves.

And so they are free to love you. Without having to save you. And if they too know their boundaries, have a strong sense of self-respect + love for themselves, they won't expect you to save them either.

HOW TO CREATE + MAINTAIN YOUR (new + sexy) BOUNDARIES

1. Know your desires + values in Relationship – get crystal clear – make a list

Include emotional, physical, mental + spiritual aspects

This is your line in the sand

2. Learn how to say NO - firmly + from your heart

When you are grounded and speak your NO clearly, then your YES becomes clearer as well. (Thank you @Sue Sutherland)

3. Be ok with whatever happens

Know that the trust + respect you demonstrate for yourself is what makes you YOU.

Love yourself knowing that being there for yourself is a great act of self-love.

And anyone who doesn't respect your boundaries, who doesn't first seek to respect you and then understand you, is probably someone you don't want around.

What better filter than this for discerning who's right / wrong for you!!